1. Love means letting go of expectations
愛意味著拋開期望
Sure, we all want people to behave the way we want them to. All of these things are expectations. Expectations are just your requirements for “acceptability” of loving someone. But true love has no expectations. It simply loves “as is.”
自然，我們都希望別人能成為我們所期望的那樣。所有這些都是期望，而期望就是你“愿意”愛上某人的條件。可是，真愛并不盡是期望——真愛是能夠接受對方本來的樣子。
2. Love doesn’t play the victim role or blame others
愛沒有“玻璃心”，也不會苛責對方
Love works together. It takes responsibility. It forgives and allows other people’s actions to be their journey. Love doesn’t take things personally.
愛是同心協力，是同舟共濟，是寬容對方并放手讓對方啟程。愛不會狹隘地斤斤計較。
3. Love includes letting go
愛也是放手
Love doesn’t equal possession. Just as the saying goes, “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it’s yours. If it doesn’t, then it never was.” There is truth to that. Love allows people their freedom.
愛不等于占有。常言道：“如果你喜歡它，就請給它自由。它若能再回來，便是你的;若不愿回來，那么它永遠也不會屬于你。” 確實如此呵!愛會給對方自由。
4. Love doesn’t require you to continue a relationship
愛不勉強維持
You may love someone very much. But you may not be compatible with them. Or they may drive you crazy with their continued disregard for your feelings. You can still love them, but that doesn’t mean you have to be with them. Love doesn’t mean that you have to stay, and stay, and stay. You can leave the relationship and love them anyway.
或許你非常愛他，可你們根本就性格不投;或者他總漠視你的情感，讓你痛苦糾纏。當然，你仍然可以愛著他，但這不表示你必須陪在他身邊。愛不是強作維持無奈停留。你可以選擇離開，但在心里仍然愛著對方。
5. Love has no room for jealousy
愛沒有嫉妒
Like possession, jealousy doesn’t equal love. We think that if we’re not jealous of our loved ones that it means that we don’t love them. True love has confidence in the quality of the relationship. It knows that the other person is happy and content coming back to you, and only you.
和占有欲一樣，嫉妒也不是愛。我們以為要是不嫉妒吃醋，就表示我們根本不愛對方。其實，真愛完全相信彼此關系多么可靠，確信那個人會很開心地選擇你——而且只有你。
6. Love means putting other people’s needs equal to – or before – your own
愛意味著“憂他人之憂”
While people may be inherently selfish for survival purposes, this does not serve us well in relationships. If you don’t put other people’s needs at least equal to your own, they will grow resentful. Real love truly, genuinely cares about other people’s happiness and will go to great lengths to make people feel valued.
為了生存，人性難免自私;但自私卻不利于培養感情。如果你沒能把對方的需求當成自己的事情，那么對方或許會心懷不滿。真正的愛會不容置疑地“樂他人之樂”，并且盡量讓對方感到受重視。
7. Love requires attention
愛需要關注
Love doesn’t ignore. It doesn’t look the other way. When people are in love, sometimes they think that they don’t have to “do any more work.” But real love actually enjoys giving attention to another person. It feels good, and doesn’t see giving attention to another person as a chore.
愛不可視而不見，不可心有旁騖。有些人以為相愛時無需“多此一舉”，但真正的愛其實是需要給予對方關注的。關心對方會讓你感到開心，而且一點也不覺得瑣碎麻煩。
9. Love varies in how it is expressed and accepted
表達與接受方式不同，愛也隨之各異。
What makes us “feel loved” varies. In the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, he explains the different ways people give and receive love: (1) Words (2) Acts of Service, (3) Giving Gifts, (4) Spending Time Together, and (5) Touch. It’s important to discover other people’s love language so you can understand each other and give love in a way that the other person recognizes it.
人們陷入愛的方式各有不同。在《愛的五種語言》一書中，蓋瑞-恰普曼闡釋了人們給予并接受愛的不同方式：(1)言語，(2)提供幫助，(3)贈送禮物，(4)共享時光，(5)肢體接觸。因此，觀察對方的愛語言很重要，這樣你就能了解彼此，并以對方能夠接受的方式表達愛意。
10. Love makes you feel good, not bad
愛讓你情緒愉悅，而非低落
Many people confuse being in a relationship with love. Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean there is true love present. If there is jealousy, possessiveness, constant fighting, abuse (verbal, emotional, or physical), that is not love.
許多人分不清相處和愛。兩人相處并不一定就是真心相愛。如果伴有嫉妒、占有、經常性爭吵，甚至口頭、情感或身體上的暴力，那根本就不是愛。
Remember, love is happiness, appreciation, and feeling good. Anything other than that is not love. If we all loved one another as ourselves, the world would be a better place!
請記住：愛是快樂，是感恩，是心情愉悅。除此之外則并非愛。如果我們都能以愛己之心去愛他人，這個世界將會變得更加美好!
