語言是社交禮儀的直接工具，想讓你的語言討大家喜歡嗎？當然可以，如果你掌握了交談的技巧，遵守交談的法則，你一定會成為社交高手。

Find what to say in your favorite topics.

知道如何談論你最喜歡的話題

We all have things we are passionate about: activities, hobbies, projects, goals, ideas or jobs. Take some time to make a short but relevant list with the things you are most passionate about, and would make easy conversational topics for you.

我們都有自己熱愛的東西：某些活動、愛好、項目、目標、思想或者工作。花點時間列一個簡短的清單，讓它們成為對話時的好話題。

Ask open ended questions.

開放式提問

One way to keep a conversation going is to get the other person talking. And the best way to do this is by addressing her open ended questions. These are questions which require more than simple 'yes' or 'no' answers, and offer the possibility of much richer answers.

讓對話繼續下去的方法之一是讓別人說。而讓別人說的最好方法就是開放式提問。開放式問題不能只用肯定或否定來回答，開放式問題的答案豐富多彩。

Blurt.

脫口而出

Often, we find it hard to keep a conversation going not because we can't think of anything to say, but because we fear the other person won't enjoy that particular subject, fact or opinion we have in mind. However, most of time, this fear is not anchored in reality. Give it a try, and you'll discover that people are not that harsh and they can enjoy a lot of things in a conversation.

常常我們覺得對話難以進行下去，并不是因為我們不知道說什么，而是因為我們擔心對方對我們想說的話題沒興趣。但是，大多數時候這個擔心是多余的。試著開口吧，然后你會發現大家并沒有那么挑剔，很多話題都是受歡迎的。

Let the other person end the silence.

讓對方打破沉默

Most people are uncomfortable with silences in a conversation. When one occurs, they immediately try to fill it by finding something to say. You can use this to keep a conversation going. When for example, you've just met a person at a party, you're talking and the conversation is stalling, do not leave that person and go find the peanuts or something like that. Instead, hang in there and let the silence work for you. Most of the time, the other person will eventually pick up the conversation and end the silence.

大多數人不喜歡對話中的沉默。一旦沉默發生了，它們會很快說點什么。你可以利用這一點讓對話繼續下去。比如，你在派對上遇到一個人，你們的對話中止了。這時候不要去拿食物，而把對方晾在那里。相反，你應該呆在原地。大部分時候，對方會打破沉默，接上話茬。